“Now, therefore, thus says the Lord of hosts: Consider your ways. You have sown much, and harvested little. You eat, but you never have enough; you drink, but you never have your fill. You clothe yourselves, but no one is warm. And he who earns wages does so to put them into a bag with holes. Because of my house that lies in ruins, while each of you busies himself with his own house.” —Haggai 1:5-7,9 ESV
It may sound cliche, but parenting is the hardest thing I have ever attempted to do. How can I as an imperfect person be responsible for my child’s physical, social, emotional, spiritual and whatever else, development? No pressure, right?
It is understandable that, because of this giant responsibility, our kids consume our thoughts, planning, budgets and calendar. We as parents are trying so hard, with great intentions, to help our children experience life to the fullest. We busy ourselves with teaching our kids how to be good students, citizens, children, husbands, wives, workers, money managers, etc. I mean we are doing it for them, right? But is this the best thing we can offer our kids as imperfect parents?
Often we take these important things and make them the most important thing. Consider the above verse, “You have sown much and harvested little. You eat, but you never have enough.” Doesn’t this sound a little like our culture? I have reached a point in my life as a parent where I am discovering that there is only one thing worth teaching, modeling, and sharing with our children…a genuine, growing, dynamic, personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
How would our kids benefit from watching us as parents begin to focus on building God’s house? What if we invited them into our personal journey/relationship with Christ? What if we shared some of our doubts and struggles and asked them to share theirs? Instead of using our kids as excuses for not engaging the work of God through opportunities at church, in our neighborhood or with those in need, what if we included them so that we could serve together?
There are many theories and thoughts on parenting in this world. But, in Deuteronomy 6:5,7 the best advice on parenting is revealed: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart…soul…might…you shall teach [these words] diligently to your children.”
So, here is my question: In an effort to do right by our kids, have we allowed them to trump God in our family? Is it time, as a family, to start building God’s house together?