What a strange question, but I’m amazed how many people I’ve met who can’t stand their family. It makes me sad.
I’ll be the first to admit that there are days, we all have them, where I love my family BUT I may not really “like” them at the moment. But that is just it - it is a moment! After all, we’re human…a group of sinners living under the same roof! But…we get over it and move on and we don’t hold grudges.
So what does it take to enjoy your family?
First, I believe you have to take time to nurture yourself. That sounds selfish, but it’s true. If you have not invested some time in yourself, how can you pour into those you love? So take a walk, read a book, whatever it might be that relaxes and rejuvenates you. For me it is a day or evening with my girlfriends or getting a pedicure.
Second, you have to spend time together. Just like our relationship with God will not grow if we are not spending time with Him, the same goes for our family.
Set aside intentional time to be together!
- Date your spouse. After all, one day it is very likely that the kids will leave the nest and it will just be the two of you. We have made a point to not talk about schedules or the kids (for the most part) on date night.
- Discover an activity that’s fun. Go on a hike, take a bike ride. It doesn’t have to be something that costs a lot of money. When my kids were little, one of their favorite things was to have an indoor family campout (which meant we all slept in the family room together) or take a day trip. Now that my kids are older we enjoy family game nights or a movie night. I treasure this time of just being together with MY family!
- Date your kids. Just like you need to date your spouse, enjoy some one-on-one time with your kids. I am amazed at conversations shared in a car ride when it is just the two of us. Find out what your kids like to do and do that with them or discover something new together.
Whether you’re married, married with kids, or a single parent, I hope you are setting aside time and developing habits that work in your home to enjoy one another! We’d love to hear what works for you; feel free to share that with us…it just might be an encouragement to someone else.
Dena Myers Office Manager