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How to talk to your kids about their camp experience

How to talk to your kids about their camp experience

Camp season is here and we are kicking things off this Thursday with Kid’s Camp! Whether your student is in 3rd, 8th or 12th grade, great conversations after camp can solidify the meaningful truths they experienced at our retreats. We want to help you have those conversations with your student when they return home from camp. 
 

Beautiful Design #3

You feel it every morning you wake up and every night when you go down to sleep. You watch it on the news and see it in movies and television. In every conversation, relationship, thought and desire. 

It’s sin. Such a typical Sunday school answer, but consider the real results of sin in everyday life: all types of pain, stress, anxiety, aggression, strife, selfishness, dishonesty, passivity, anger, stealing, just to name a few. We feel the alienation from God, nature and each other in all sorts of ways we can hardly wrap our minds around. James 4:1-4 says, 

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.

Our beautiful design as men and women made in the image of God has also been tarnished. If you pay attention to current issues at all, you have probably noticed the changing nature of conversations on manhood, womanhood, marriage and the like. For some of you, it’s scary. For others, it is a daily battle of identity and self-worth. 

Clearly, sin affects all aspects of manhood and womanhood, but also in specific ways. Women are more inclined towards endless comparison (shape, size, tan, clothes, success, etc.) and perfectionism (the perfect selfie, job, relationship, measuring up to an impossible expectation set up by who knows!). Men, on the other hand, are prone to selfish passivity and selfish aggression. Just read statistics about pornography, fatherlessness, and incarcerations. It is truly a wilderness we live in. 

Is there any way to be free from these temptations, struggles, pitfalls and failures as man and woman? Or are we doomed to be tossed about by the winds and waves of whatever our culture defines as good, or pleasurable or desirable in a man or woman?

Perhaps a better question to ask is one that takes us back to the Garden of Eden where humanity fell out of love with its Creator God. And that is, do you trust God? Can you trust His design, purpose and love for you?

If we were honest, I think we would say “no.” Our actions, thoughts, values and beliefs make the case. We need overwhelming proof of this love, this beautiful design and destiny with God, right? Then be glad, Friend, for Romans 5 says, 

6 You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. 7 Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. 8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

What kind of reaction does that stir up in you? Knowing you can’t save yourself is depressing, but the reality of God’s love is one of self-sacrifice and victory for you and me. There is power and freedom in the name of Jesus for men and women alike. 

Reflect:

  • What are some common struggles both men and women of all ages experience? What are some different types of struggles they each face?
  • How does the truth of God’s love and salvation in Romans 5-6 change your perspective on your own worth and value as a man or woman? 
  • What might be your next step in engaging a healthy, biblical perspective on manhood and womenhood? How can we honor the unique image God has placed on each?
  • Parents: What might be some next steps in encouraging your student’s value and worth as a young man or woman? How can you encourage their passions, gifts and beauty beyond what culture tries to value and encourage them in?

Keep an eye out for many more posts, interesting articles and helpful tips as we journey together through Beautiful Design. 

 

Nick Binsacca - Director of Youth Ministry

Football, Turkey, & Family

It really is hard to believe that 8 and a half years ago God called us to Boise.  In so many ways this move felt like we were moving to the moon!  For the first time in our life we found ourselves extremely far away from all of our family and in a context we knew nothing about.


As the holidays rolled around that year, Andrea and I began to discuss what we would do.  We were on our own.  The holidays were a blank slate.  We could start new traditions, honor old ones or come up with a hybrid of sorts.  So, as the planning for Thanksgiving commenced, Andrea thought it would be an amazing idea to invite new friends who were in very similar situations as us.  Why not consider our church family as family for the holidays?  So we did!


Imagine the scene with me.  Three, four, sometimes 5 or more families all contributing to an incredible feast.  The sweet and amazing fragrance of family recipes are filling the house.   Family traditions and even stories are being shared around the table.  Children are laughing, running and playing.  Football is on in the background.  The Family of God gathered and rejoicing in all that God has blessed them with.


While it may seem that we were the ones reaching out to those who didn’t have plans for Thanksgiving, that simply wasn’t the case.  Our family has been so blessed by those who have graced our home.  We have found connection.  We have found belonging.  We have found something to be truly thankful for.  So what about you?  Is God asking you to open up your home this holiday season as a way to engage in true and authentic community?  I mean really, what better way to connect then over some turkey and football!

Book Review - Parenting is Your Highest Calling

I am going to ask a crazy question. One I think I know the answer to. Have you every been overwhelmed by the calling of being a parent? Have you every felt inadequate or ill equipped? I know that I have. The thing that frustrates me most about parenting is that it reveals all the areas in my personal, private life that are areas of weakness. You know, like maybe I am not the most patient man in the world. So, with that revelation becoming a reality I began to look for help. But truth be told, I really didn’t want to open up. So, I turned to a book. It is safe, it doesn’t talk back, I can skip any section I want and I can walk away without being rude. As I have started the journey of reading books about parenting, it hasn’t really helped me feel more equipped. Actually, it has made me feel even worse about the list of things I need to start doing, stop doing or simply do better. That was until a few months ago when I read one of the best parenting books I have ever read.

517dqs7ihJLLeslie Leyland Fields in, Parenting Is Your Highest Calling: And Eight Other Myths That Trap Us in Worry and Guilt, has a unique ability to relate to every day life - the ups and downs experienced within that life, and put words to feelings I have felt but couldn’t express. She does all of this while staying true to God’s word and reminding us that parenting really isn’t our highest calling. To love God with all our heart, soul, mind and strength is not just our highest calling, but the place where we find the ability and strength to remain faithful in doing more than just raising successful children. But rather to be a part of His divine plan of making disciples that make disciples. And she did this for me while encouraging me, not overwhelming me.

If you are like me and looking for an honest voice to add to the conversation about parenting, I would pick this book up. Or if you are a parent of a child 5 and under, you might consider coming to the Mom’s group that meets the 1st Friday of each month from 11:30 to 1:30. They are starting to read and discuss this book as a community.

Happy Parenting and know that the family ministry staff at First Baptist-Bosie is praying for you! If you need a copy of this book or need help in finding it please don’t hesitate to email me at matt@fbcboise.org.

Matt Priebe - Family Pastor